Thursday, December 29, 2011

Hit a threshold

Often times I feel like I want to quit PUA and get back to my previous Wass 1.0 version. But, when I see other folks in the community struggling like me, I get motivated once again.
Today, I found the following website

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Inner game articles

Thursday, December 8, 2011

Progress Checkpoint

- did the Pickup101 30-day challenge to embrace approach anxiety
- reached level 8 of BradP Social Freedom program
- learned basic structure and techniques of PU
- improved my lifestyle by going out more often with or without company
- read Brad's fashion Bible, The Game, Xuma's Inner Game, Love Systems' body language, Sinn's Day Game, Roger Love Vocal Power
- joined a fitness program, 3 times a week
- dated a couple of girls

I still haven't reached my goals.

Goals of the month:
- get out every day in the field: get more rejections and feedback
- start printing and reading ICOMM study book + mental rehearsal
- improve breathing pattern consciously
- be conscious about my voice and my focus
- sleep less

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Raise Your Standards

Let me say it again. Raise your standards, in every area in your life:
- find another job, if you aren't satistfied with your actual one, or be active searching,
- if you exercise regularly, then great. Otherwise, alpha man takes care of his body as well as his mind
- if you're in an average to low value relationship then change it. If you're single, then aim at high quality women. Don't involve yourself into quick relationships just to feel some intimacy. You're the prize. Women should win you, not the other way around.
It's going to be tough, whether you do meditation, incantations, Morty Lefkoe Method, or any other tool. There will be times where you'll have feelings of anxiety and memory flashbacks. You'll even say "I messed it up. I should have done this and that". But, go ahead, because life is full of unexpected wonderful events and situations.
Raise your standards, and it all begins in your mind

Monday, August 1, 2011

Finding Energy II

In a previous post, I talked about how I could increase my energy with little effort. In this topic, I'm going to deal with emotional energy.
Carlos Xuma, in his Secrets of the Alpha Man product (which I recommend), said that success in life in mostly determined by our EQ, not by our IQ. EQ stands for Emotional intelligence. What he meant is, no matter how intelligent you may seem, if you don't run the adequate thought processes, you're going to sabotize your efforts later.
It sounds true, at least for me. For example, I used to have plenty of free time. I used to plan for study. But when I sit down in front on my computer, negative talk ran in my head. So I find myself at the end of the day surfing the net or chatting.
Maybe it's due to what Tony Robbins calls "pain and pleasure". There's some truth in it.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

It's all in your mind

Energy, discipline, hope, expectancy, motivation, hard work. It's all in your mind. It's about changing the way you think about everything and cutting with your past performance and beliefs. If you repeat the same thinking patterns in your head, you still get the same negative feelings over and over again. I countless times heard this, but now it sounds so damn true.
I don't know a single way to do it. I'm not an expert. I only know each person has its own way, and he will find it if he digs deep enough, for it's a personal enlightement journey, and life is a game.

I was blind but now I see, Eddie Morra

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Movies that will change your Thinking

- Into the Wild
- 127 Hours
- Pursuit of Happiness
- Memento

The first two ones are the most touching. Happiness is not by owning a lot of things; it occurs when we share those things. Sharing is the key. Share a smile, share a kiss, share a piece of sandwich, ... We neglect a lot of moments with our parents, our siblings, our family.. But we sit down and look back at them, we see that we did not give enough importance to those moments. We just let them slip. We only have a copy of them in our memories, then.
Why regret when we could have lived them better? I made a lot of mistakes because I tend to improve my thinking every day. I am sure I am a lot different from me of last year. I thank God for giving me the opportunity to live frustration, because frustration is what led me to think about changing and improving myself.
I'm in a constant search for effective tools and strategies for that matter.
Each time I feel frustrated that's a signal of either impatience or misconceived belief. Either way, I have to sit back and think.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Me and I

I may not be a genius, but I am stubborn enough to get what I want. I am not patient, but I know that when I'm on the verge of breaking down good things appear, like cool water out of hot sand. I may not be very handsome and sexy, but I have my character that I design every day? I may not be born in a wealthy family, but I have my beliefs to tweak. I may not have had the career I dreamt of in my childhood, but I can see all the beauty in my actual career. I may not follow the path of my classmates, but I hear a sweet different beat. I may ask myself questions forever, but my Self is already creating my answers.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

It takes 21 days

It takes 21 days to make a chick. It takes 21 days to form a habit.
According to Carlos Xuma, if I concentrate only on one habit or belief, for 21 days, I can have 15 new beliefs in one year! That's change. He said that, what's important in affirmations is tracking progress, not the affirmations themselves.
What if you take 21 days to improve your voice? 21 days to improve your body language and presence? 21 days to work on your discipline? 21 days to review your beliefs? How would that do to you as whole person?

Sunday, May 22, 2011

The importance of deep breathing

All day I practiced deep breathing. I mean, inhale slowly with my nose until my lungs are full and exhale totally through my mouth until my lungs are "empty" and my stomach is stressed.
Does it have benefits? I totally agree:
- I am more focused on what is most important to me at one time,
- I can work steadily without feeling tired,
- I did not feel depressed or anxious,
- I had bright ideas popping out of my head :-)
- I feel more confident about my abilities and my future
- I feel I can enjoy my life more

It may take some effort to monitor oneself breathing pattern. But it will definitely pay off in terms of increased energy, calmness and focus.

Update on August 1st: I got a copy of Breathing, The Masterkey to Self Healing, by Andrew Weil. I did two "breathworks" and I felt very drousy and thoughtless. I was a little sweating and felt some kind of white noise in my ears, like coming from a hard rock concert. This confirms the power of deep breathing. So Since I'm coming from an emotional breakdown, I'm going to incorporate at least 10mn of meditation/focused breathing before sleep each day.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Mystery explains approach anxiety

I loved the word "desensitize yourself"
Watch here

How to overcome the fear of rejection

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Going Loud II

I came across my old post "Going Loud" and felt cold in my knees. I used to enjoy my time and now I'm all job-oriented. One girl told me she grew old with me. I was old.
Now I put hard rock and heavy metal in my car during daily commute. Hobbies are inevitable to maintain a healthy soul, just as food is necessary for the body. I was comtaminating people around me with my bad mood these days because I could not get the job I wanted.
Between being an all-rounded geek and having a balanced life, I choose the second.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Careful choosing your friends

Friends matter. Don't tell me that you can face the problems of life without them. They are the ones that you can lean on whenever it becomes tough. Whenever you fell suffocated, mistreated, heart-broken, sad, depressed, they are here to help you with a word, a thought, an advice or even a smile.
Yesterday I met an old friend. I hesitated at first, then I said let's give it a try. But my intuition was right. I didn't enjoy it at all. Worse, I was watching the clock :-) Some people are just like that. They bother you and annoy you unconsciously.
Some people are like parasites on your book pages. Don't get angry. They didn't mean to harm you. But, they're called parasites after all. They landed here to teach you something. There are people who will make you cry, and there are people who have kind personality and still are friendly even a year since the last time you met them.
The point is, you must avoid parasites -if you have the choice-, or at least just greet them and go on, for your time is precious and deserves to be spent with easy-going and cheerful friends.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Keep the Faith

Tonight my girlfriend broke up with me. She said she feels bad when she's with me. She says that I'm sweet. I fell into the Nice Guy syndrom.
I felt very sad, like when the last girl left me. tears fell down like a shocked baby. I'm a sensitive man.
But I'll keep the faith in Allah, for He is the Creator of circumstances. This incident should make me stronger and more focused on what is true and what is not. It'll make me believe more that I deserve a person who is willing to give back, to love and to share.

But how did I end up here? Months ago, I was confident with women around me. I was enjoying being me, since I was following great PUAs. And the results were positive.
Today, I realize that I turned into a Wussy. I often buy gifts, I always take her back home, I sound nice on the phone, I anticipate thoughts and avoid hurting her, I gave her power to choose and to decide sometimes. I also noticed that I got distracted by other girls when I was with my girlfriend. That meant that I was not confident. The biggest mistake I made was to tell her that I fear being seduced by some other beautiful girl. Terrible mistake! All of that is accumulation of mistakes. All of that lead to where I am now and what I feel. Even if you're the most honest and kind guy, that does not make her more attracted to you, I can tell.
Now I'm paying the price of being too nice, too weak and too future-oriented.

Action to take? I am going to rediscover the dormant man in me and awake him. I'm going to revisit my old DD programs..

What are you worth?

A collegue of mine is thinking about leaving the company. He has already 4 years experience in Unix/database. He's been offered almost 2000DT/month to work in another big company.
When I think about it, and observe my situation, doubts rush through my mind. Have I made the right move by coming here? When should I stop underestimating my professional skills?
So, what are you worth?

Monday, April 4, 2011

Finding Energy

It's monday morning. I'm feeling tired. My eyes are burning. I didn't study enough yesterday. It's April 4th, and I have many topics to practice yet for the exam. I've been thinking about my emotional life and where it was heading. But with that, I lost precious time: half a sunday.
Ok, nobody is perfect, and I have some flaws in my discipline. And I need more energy. I need more focus. I'll concentrate on my studies and work and leave emotional stuff for a later time.
Some of the tips I read are:
- eat vegetables and fruits. Diversify colors,
- drink a lot of water,
- be an early achiever. I took this from Brian Tracy. It's been two days that I get up early-around 4am. Of course, I sleep early too. I may miss night activities, but there are more important things to do in life than idling on Facebook or watching a movie.
- incantations. I still do them every morning. I can't stress them enough.
- Stay correct with Allah, and He may send you His blessings.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Job offer

I've been interviewed yesterday by a project manager of a medium IT company.
On my way to the company, I was doing incantations. Are there intense incantations and light incantations? I don't think so, since incantations must inevitably be done with the whole mind being involved in the belief. So talking about incantations or intense incantations is the same thing.
I arrived in time. I was feeling confident and energetic. I sat for the interview. The manager seemed uninterested at first. He thought that maybe I would not qualify for the Networking Technical Manager.
"I was not applying for it", I said. "I'm applying for a Network Consultant position".
He was relieved because, given my young experience and my modest CV, it seemed to be quite difficult to suit the position.
He bombarded me with very easy technical questions. I was wondering if he was serious :-) Then we spoke in French, and in English, to see my linguistic skills.
At the end of the interview, I was sure I was going to take the job. It was obvious, from the eyes of my interviewer, that I was the best shot he could get :-)
On my way home, I was very satisfied with my performance.
At home I was thinking about quitting the job and preparing for the new one. I asked an old co-worker about the situation. Long story short, he advised me to wait until July, date of Tunisia presidential elections. After that, it's very likely that many prestigious companies will open offices in my country.
So I'll wait. And meanwhile, I'll read, I'll learn, I'll practice and be ready for opportunities when they come..

"Luck is when preparation meets opportunity", Seneca (5 BC - 65 AD)

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Declining a job offer

This afternoon, a HR company called to offer a job to me. They said that Fidelity is seeking a Senior Data Analyst for its office here in Tunisia.
I declined it.
The HR clerk was surprised with my response. I felt that in her voice. There was a little bit of anger. I explained to her that I'd rather work with a networking company, not in a financial institution. My next career move will be with a company that has partnership with major network equipment manufacturers like Cisco or Juniper. I want to play with routing and switching equipement, and voip too.
I'll stick to my position for now and work on my TSHOOT skills.

Friday, March 25, 2011

Reducing sleep time

this is my second day with only 6hours of sleep per night. I already feel drowsiness :-) I listened to EIGRP session from INE CCNP bootcamp, and consciously I almost understood nothing :-)
Reducing my sleep time and keeping it is mandatory to me. I have to admit something. I am not up to date in my field. I have a lot of material to read, to synthetise and to memorize. Besides, I am still not an avid reader like I want to become. Reading is key in the Information age, or better, the Communication age.
I read that nobody died from sleep deprivation. I read about Randy Gardner and was fascinated and reassured. So sleep deprivation does not kill.
I'm not at that stage yet. It's true that for the past month I've been sleeping for more than 8 hours, like a bear :-) So I consider myself that I've been wasting a lot of precious time.
It's 7:15pm, and I'm still in the office.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Let's "incantate"

I had bad dreams last three nights. I had a lot of negative self-talk. This is going to disappear because I'm adopting the famous Tony Robbins' incantations. Yes they do work if I repeat them consistently and with belief. Some visualization is helpful. I read that some people experienced success if they do incantations for 20mn a day.
Here are some of my incantations, translated to English:
- I can look at anybody in the eye
- I am self confident
- I have all the resources that I need to succeed
- I can handle any situation I face while being relaxed <-- very useful

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

checkpoint of my progress

I took a LOT of rest the last two weeks. I have a lot of study to cover for the TSHOOT exam. I read that it's not that difficult, and it's fun.
I need to read more. Now, welcome back OSPF :-)

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Back from France

CIPT v8 was full of new knowledge. I'm confident that it'll open more opportunities to learn and to advance in my career. Voice over IP (VoIP) is no longer a luxury technology. It's a must.
For now, I will photoread the CIPT books each night before bed, along with TSHOOT books. tomorrow I'll resume my TSHOOT studies. The goal is:
- to pass the TSHOOT exam before April 15th --> CCNP status
- to study for CIPTv8 and pass the exam before July 15th --> renew CCNP.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

- practice Silence, 30mn in the morning and before sleep. This is part of the Law of Pure Potentiality
live the present moment. If you reconstruct the past, you'll reconstruct past emotions. The future is anticipation. If your anticipation is bad, you'll bring negative emotions in your present. So focus on the moment.
- Accept everything as it is, because that's how it is supposed to be. It's part of the Universe to be like that -> Law of Least Effort
Detach from your goal. That does not mean giving up
- Money, cars, houses,.. are symbols of the Self. If you get attached to symbols of the Self, you'll lose your Self -> Law of Detachment
- Give, whenever you can. If you want love, give love. If you want money, give money -> Law of Giving

Friday, February 11, 2011

If you need motivation to study and work hard

Chinese young children of low class society work and learn. Here

Sunday, February 6, 2011

2-months Goals

Deadline: March 6th

Friday, February 4, 2011

First session of Silence

I finished 15 minutes of silence. Damn it was harder than I thought. At first, a million thoughts rushed into my brain. I felt my head was going to explode! I felt sometimes drowsy. Sometimes I open my eyes to not fall asleep :-)
Now, I feel less stressed, more open to communication. Overall it's a wonderful experience. I want more.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

The CEO speech

I was not expecting a lot from his speech this noon. He talked about staying together and attracting more clients. I was bored. I kept looking at people faces. They were anxious.

Rediscovering NLP

Waw! I'm going to love this audio book "NLP: The new Technology of Achievement". I only listened to the first track, by charles Faulkner.
I already feel the changes. I'm happier, more productive, less sensitive to people's critics, less influenced by people's opinions, more focused, more energy..
Today I'm going to listen to track 2, by Kelly Gerling.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Tunisia: freedom day

Pictures of Tunisia: days of the Chaos

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Tunisia is free

January 14 will be a celebration day for all of us. Tunisia is a country of democracy now. Tunisia is the first country where the people IS the ruler.
I'm proud of being Tunisian.

Saturday, January 8, 2011

A road revisited

I was determined to become an international consultant. And I still am. To fly the world, to experience a new lifestyle, to see new cultures, new mindsets.
I no longer care on which networking technology I'm going to work, as long as I'm on the right road.
Time to play with JUNOS.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Riding along the dirty road

Things are happening fast. Things go in the other direction sometimes. I was a little stubborn. I have to open my eyes and change my focus, change my camera lenses.
Perfect career, an off-road track. Cisco vs Juniper. I need to consider them complimentary, instead of opposite sides. So what about Juniper? Is it the perfect time?
I have blurred mind, scrambled ideas and flashbacks.